Resources For Parents From Las Virgenes Unified Superintendent



As the horrible tragedy continues to unfold in Connecticut I wanted to provide resources and support to you.  As our children are hearing about this tragedy, several questions may arise for you at home.  As parents you not only have to deal with their questions but also your own emotions.   I would like to take this opportunity to help you in that process with some suggestions.  The following are some strategies from our school psychologists and the National Association of School Psychologists to help you and your family.

  1. Minimize television viewing of this event.
  2. Encourage your children to talk and share their feelings.
  3. Remain calm as you discuss these events with them and with others.
  4. Let your children know it’s ok to feel upset
  5. Assure your children that they are safe and are taken care of at home and at school
  6. Keep in perspective that these events are extremely rare
  7. Maintain a normal routine at home
  8. Be a good listener
  1. Keep your explanations developmentally appropriate.
    1. Early elementary school children need brief, simple information that should be balanced with reassurances that the daily structures of their lives will not change.
    2. Upper elementary and early middle schoolchildren will be more vocal in asking questions about whether they truly are safe and what is being done at their school.  They may need assistance separating reality from fantasy.
    3. Upper middle school and high school students will have strong and varying opinions about the causes of violence and threats to safety in schools and society.  They will share concrete suggestions about how to make school safer and how to prevent tragedies in society. They will be more committed to doing something to help the victims and affected community.
    4. For all children, encourage them to verbalize their thoughts and feelings. Be a good listener!

Give them a hug and reassure them that they are loved

We hope that you find these suggestions of value.  If you want additional information, please refer to the following link.


Dr. Dan Stepenosky


Las Virgenes Unified School District

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